Well, DS3 has been sick since Wednesday morning. Fever went up to 104.2, diarrhea, sore throat, headache. I am now sick too, I already called into work for tonight as I just don't see it happening. I have gotten maybe 2 hour increments of sleep since he got sick, just me checking his temperature and making sure he was drinking.
With him being sick, he also hasn't worked on his vehicle either. Hopefully he will be well enough tomorrow.
I haven't been able to get to the gym the past couple of days, I will get back to it on Monday. My diet hasn't been too bad, but not drinking my water like I should, more Vernors than anything and Popsicles.
Signing off until another day.
Friday, July 27, 2018
I have started this post a few times now and things just keep changing before I can post! DS3's vehicle was up and running, but broke down on his first day out with it. Appears to be the fuel pump or the wiring for it. I also was able to get the front end alignment for the Mighty B and it now drives like a champ. I will need shocks and tires in the near future though.
I did buy a few things for our camping trip, a tent, 2 chairs, and a cooler. I was able to get a deal at Kmart, a $120 tent on sale for $65 and received $60 in credits, which are redeemable in $20 increments every 2 weeks. Once I ordered the tent and picked it up, I received my first $20 credit and bought the cooler, which was on clearance. The chairs were $2 cheaper online than in the store too. BUT, it looks like my debit card was hacked through Kmart. It was very odd. My son used my debit card at 6:48 pm on Monday, and the 2 fraud purchases were at 6:12 and 6:24 pm. My son had put his wallet on top of the vehicle after pumping and left it there, and it disappeared of course. When he couldn't locate it 2 hours later, I called the bank and let them know the card was lost. I had no idea about the fraud at that time as they didn't post online until after 4 am. I just happened to check my account about 5 am and saw the charges, so I called the bank again. They were small charges thank goodness, but going to be a pain to have to change all my direct debits again.
I plan on using the rest of the $40 credit at Kmart as in-store purchases for our trip. There are just miscellaneous things left to get such as a cooking rack for over the fire, a hatchet, a shovel (no bathrooms, lol), and a pan. I'm not going to get sleeping bags, figuring we can get a bunch of blankets and live with it.
This post is from 7/24....
I did buy a few things for our camping trip, a tent, 2 chairs, and a cooler. I was able to get a deal at Kmart, a $120 tent on sale for $65 and received $60 in credits, which are redeemable in $20 increments every 2 weeks. Once I ordered the tent and picked it up, I received my first $20 credit and bought the cooler, which was on clearance. The chairs were $2 cheaper online than in the store too. BUT, it looks like my debit card was hacked through Kmart. It was very odd. My son used my debit card at 6:48 pm on Monday, and the 2 fraud purchases were at 6:12 and 6:24 pm. My son had put his wallet on top of the vehicle after pumping and left it there, and it disappeared of course. When he couldn't locate it 2 hours later, I called the bank and let them know the card was lost. I had no idea about the fraud at that time as they didn't post online until after 4 am. I just happened to check my account about 5 am and saw the charges, so I called the bank again. They were small charges thank goodness, but going to be a pain to have to change all my direct debits again.
I plan on using the rest of the $40 credit at Kmart as in-store purchases for our trip. There are just miscellaneous things left to get such as a cooking rack for over the fire, a hatchet, a shovel (no bathrooms, lol), and a pan. I'm not going to get sleeping bags, figuring we can get a bunch of blankets and live with it.
This post is from 7/24....
Monday, July 16, 2018
So I had DS2 look at the Mighty B yesterday. DS3 tried so hard to fix it for me, but he did not do the CV shaft correctly. DS2 fixed everything that was wrong, but had no clue as to why the humming was still there and the loose steering. I took it into our local repair shop after working my 12 hour shift, waited for a couple of hours to find out the other wheel bearing needed to be replaced and my idler arm as well, then a front end alignment. I was so happy it was nothing major! DS2 and DS3 today (actually on Sunday as I'm a midnighter) replaced the wheel bearing and the humming is gone! DS2 said the idler arm is not in horrible shape and that I could go quite a bit before it needs to be replaced. I just need to do the front end alignment! I am ecstatic! Cost of the wheel bearing was $105.
On another front, DS3 now has a vehicle! He found one for $1000 that was marked down to $800 by the time he and his father went back, and he talked them down to $700. His father wanted me to pay half, which I didn't have due to the vehicle issues and DS3 had just gotten paid, so he paid $300 and I paid $100. His dad had said originally the price was $800, hence why we paid $400. Then for some unknown reason, the EX made DS2 chip in $150 and told DS3 he needed to pay DS2 back??? I have yet to figure out why. The only thing I can think of is because DS3 just got his GF a van (one of the reasons he didn't have time to work on my vehicle) and it is insured through the EX. Maybe DS2 owes him money? DS2 apparently made a statement of why was he putting money in when EX had a ton of money stashed. Oh really? DS3 said EX told him to shut up. I think he is preparing for the divorce. Nothing makes sense with him.
Back to DS3. He just needs to get something fixed with the brakes, which EX said he would pay for and then I'm going to get it registered on Friday when I get paid. No more sharing a vehicle! I won't have be worried about getting forced over at work in the morning when DS3 needs to leave for work or school. What a relief.
EX found out the disability money he gets for DS3 is doubling, so he told him he would give it to him. Whether that means the full amount, I highly doubt it, but he can use that to pay for his insurance and gas money. I could be a real nasty person and report to Social Security that DS3 does not live with his father, but with me and sees him maybe once-twice a month and they will in turn turn over ALL of DS3 social security money to me, but the EX would make my life as miserable as he could. If there is anything that I have learned, money isn't everything. I need my sanity.
I picked up another 2 hours of OT, so a total of 4 hours of OT today, 16-hour day. I keep telling myself every little bit helps!
On another front, DS3 now has a vehicle! He found one for $1000 that was marked down to $800 by the time he and his father went back, and he talked them down to $700. His father wanted me to pay half, which I didn't have due to the vehicle issues and DS3 had just gotten paid, so he paid $300 and I paid $100. His dad had said originally the price was $800, hence why we paid $400. Then for some unknown reason, the EX made DS2 chip in $150 and told DS3 he needed to pay DS2 back??? I have yet to figure out why. The only thing I can think of is because DS3 just got his GF a van (one of the reasons he didn't have time to work on my vehicle) and it is insured through the EX. Maybe DS2 owes him money? DS2 apparently made a statement of why was he putting money in when EX had a ton of money stashed. Oh really? DS3 said EX told him to shut up. I think he is preparing for the divorce. Nothing makes sense with him.
Back to DS3. He just needs to get something fixed with the brakes, which EX said he would pay for and then I'm going to get it registered on Friday when I get paid. No more sharing a vehicle! I won't have be worried about getting forced over at work in the morning when DS3 needs to leave for work or school. What a relief.
EX found out the disability money he gets for DS3 is doubling, so he told him he would give it to him. Whether that means the full amount, I highly doubt it, but he can use that to pay for his insurance and gas money. I could be a real nasty person and report to Social Security that DS3 does not live with his father, but with me and sees him maybe once-twice a month and they will in turn turn over ALL of DS3 social security money to me, but the EX would make my life as miserable as he could. If there is anything that I have learned, money isn't everything. I need my sanity.
I picked up another 2 hours of OT, so a total of 4 hours of OT today, 16-hour day. I keep telling myself every little bit helps!
Saturday, July 14, 2018
Unfortunately the work that they did yesterday did not stop the humming noise that is going on; it is better, just not gone. DS2 GF came over today as she needed help doing her resume and submitting job applications, so I told her about DS3 doing the vehicle work. DS2 called me on the way to work trying to remain calm as he knew I did what I had to do, but that he had planned on working on it Saturday.... maybe he should have told me. He is not the greatest communicator.
I got some exercise in last night, I walked the dogs for about 45 minutes around midnight. I'm sure if anyone would have seen me it would have been quite the sight. We have a 4-year-old Husky named Kali and 9-week-old Belgian Malinois Sassy. It was beautiful out and very peaceful. The babies enjoyed it immensely. I haven't done too badly with my eating either, stuck to my salad, frozen microwave Healthy Choice meal, skipped my protein shake as the Healthy Choice made my stomach not very happy. This is my weekend to work, I won't get too much exercise done.
On the finance front, I almost allowed myself to charge an InstaPot! It was on sale for the lowest price in history, 51% off with all of Kohl's stackable coupons. I've wanted one for a long time. I actually bought the EX one for his birthday last year that he used once in the last months that we were together. I stopped myself though, I've lived this long without one and it is more important to pay things off and get ahead.
I did pick up 2 hours of overtime on Sunday. Every little bit helps.
Ta-ta for now!
I got some exercise in last night, I walked the dogs for about 45 minutes around midnight. I'm sure if anyone would have seen me it would have been quite the sight. We have a 4-year-old Husky named Kali and 9-week-old Belgian Malinois Sassy. It was beautiful out and very peaceful. The babies enjoyed it immensely. I haven't done too badly with my eating either, stuck to my salad, frozen microwave Healthy Choice meal, skipped my protein shake as the Healthy Choice made my stomach not very happy. This is my weekend to work, I won't get too much exercise done.
On the finance front, I almost allowed myself to charge an InstaPot! It was on sale for the lowest price in history, 51% off with all of Kohl's stackable coupons. I've wanted one for a long time. I actually bought the EX one for his birthday last year that he used once in the last months that we were together. I stopped myself though, I've lived this long without one and it is more important to pay things off and get ahead.
I did pick up 2 hours of overtime on Sunday. Every little bit helps.
Ta-ta for now!
Thursday, July 12, 2018
Teenagers ...
I have an older vehicle, one I got a great deal on. It only had 60,000 miles on it, was used as a summer car for a wealthy family. It now needs some work done to it, ball joints, wheel bearing, basically the front end. My other 18 yo son (DS2) did some of the work and has been too busy since Mother's Day to help. We will get into why he is too busy another time. I told him last week it was getting really bad and was worried about getting into an accident and he was supposed to tell me when he could do it, and I still have not heard from him. I called around and it will be a minimum of $400 to get what I need done. My 17 yo son (DS3) and his friend said they could do it; his friend went through a mechanic program at college. They did the wheel bearing yesterday and needed to change the brake pads still, but decided to hold off on the brake until today. Well, something isn't right with the wheel bearing or possibly the caliper is bad.
The decision was made his friend would take DS3 to work and pick him up from work, then they would drive my vehicle to his friend's house to work on it as he has more tools at his place. They left here and got to the friend's GF's house at 2 pm. They were to text me along the way and by 7:45 I still hadn't heard anything. They were still at the GF's house. I got a little upset and told him so. Things didn't go yesterday the way we planned, so you have to plan for things going wrong. It will take them at least an hour to get to the friend's house and the auto store closes at 10. And he has to be to work at 7 am tomorrow and I have to be to work at 6 pm. It has to be done tonight. He got short with me, but I'm sure it was because he was mad at himself as he knew I was right.
I worry about him staying up late to get this done (he insists it won't take long) and then having to get up and go to work tomorrow morning. Maybe I worry too much, but he is a new driver and he's my baby.
I just want this vehicle to last a year or so, then I may give it to one of my son's. If they have dependable vehicles, then I can lease a vehicle as I don't live far from work. With DS3 and I sharing a vehicle, too many miles for a lease. Keeping this vehicle allows me to pay off bills faster and get a savings built up for a house and emergency fund.
Well, just heard from DS3. The repair place doesn't think it is a bad caliper but bad CV shaft assembly, so he and his friend are going to replace that now. He also apologized for being short with me and for not planning appropriately. I did raise that boy right after all! I told him how proud I was of him for stepping up and taking care of all of this, plus apologizing on top of it. I love that boy!
I have an older vehicle, one I got a great deal on. It only had 60,000 miles on it, was used as a summer car for a wealthy family. It now needs some work done to it, ball joints, wheel bearing, basically the front end. My other 18 yo son (DS2) did some of the work and has been too busy since Mother's Day to help. We will get into why he is too busy another time. I told him last week it was getting really bad and was worried about getting into an accident and he was supposed to tell me when he could do it, and I still have not heard from him. I called around and it will be a minimum of $400 to get what I need done. My 17 yo son (DS3) and his friend said they could do it; his friend went through a mechanic program at college. They did the wheel bearing yesterday and needed to change the brake pads still, but decided to hold off on the brake until today. Well, something isn't right with the wheel bearing or possibly the caliper is bad.
The decision was made his friend would take DS3 to work and pick him up from work, then they would drive my vehicle to his friend's house to work on it as he has more tools at his place. They left here and got to the friend's GF's house at 2 pm. They were to text me along the way and by 7:45 I still hadn't heard anything. They were still at the GF's house. I got a little upset and told him so. Things didn't go yesterday the way we planned, so you have to plan for things going wrong. It will take them at least an hour to get to the friend's house and the auto store closes at 10. And he has to be to work at 7 am tomorrow and I have to be to work at 6 pm. It has to be done tonight. He got short with me, but I'm sure it was because he was mad at himself as he knew I was right.
I worry about him staying up late to get this done (he insists it won't take long) and then having to get up and go to work tomorrow morning. Maybe I worry too much, but he is a new driver and he's my baby.
I just want this vehicle to last a year or so, then I may give it to one of my son's. If they have dependable vehicles, then I can lease a vehicle as I don't live far from work. With DS3 and I sharing a vehicle, too many miles for a lease. Keeping this vehicle allows me to pay off bills faster and get a savings built up for a house and emergency fund.
Well, just heard from DS3. The repair place doesn't think it is a bad caliper but bad CV shaft assembly, so he and his friend are going to replace that now. He also apologized for being short with me and for not planning appropriately. I did raise that boy right after all! I told him how proud I was of him for stepping up and taking care of all of this, plus apologizing on top of it. I love that boy!
Wednesday, July 11, 2018
Life: Hey there, here goes another therapy session for myself. I was stressed to the hilt this morning after getting off work at 6 am. My youngest, DS3, has been having friends over for the past 5 days or so. I am on a 16-day work streak. I am very picky about having a clean living space. I came home to garbage overflowing, dishes that had been there for 2 days with food still on them, wrappers all over the living room floor and the 9-week old puppy Sassy not in her crate (yes, I named my blog after my baby). Then, to walk into the bathroom and find the toilet completely clogged and unusable. I played with the dog like I normally do to try and tire her out, and got to sleep about 10 am. Before going to sleep, I texted my son (he was still sleeping) and told him the toilet needed to be dealt with along with the rest of the mess. I woke up just before 4 pm, to find out son had called maintenance for help. With my apartment a total wreck. Apparently, he did not take Sassy out like he should have and she had a couple of accidents. He cleaned them up with wet wipes, which did not flush. Face palm. I am embarrassed that the apartment maintenance man came into my place the way it was. Before leaving for work, I left him instructions on cleaning including steam cleaning the carpets. He is normally a pretty good kid, so I think the stern talking to is enough for now.
Finances: I have attempted a budget for the next 3 pay checks. I need to get bills paid, which will happen, but I am also going on vacation with the youngest and possibly my 18-year-old and his GF for the first time on my own. Just a camping trip with kayaking, but something I haven't done in years due to finances. Even when I was married, I rarely took days off. I was an independent contractor and we needed my checks. I am really looking forward to this. I need to put some money away to help get my son a vehicle and also start an emergency fund for myself. I have read up on Dave Ramsey's steps and I may start the program to get my ducks in a row. I don't know the best way on how to post the budget, I will have to figure that out.
As far as debt goes, this is what I have:
IRS: $2500
Credit Card #1: $1200
Credit Card #2: $1350
Credit Card #3: $500
Credit Card #4: $400
Furniture loan: $1468 ($740 early buyout)
I just finished paying off my medical bills!
My credit score sucks. It is 592 on Experian, 620 on Equifax and 564 Transunion. I expect it to improve with the last medical bill paid in full and a correction to my report as well. The biggest impact to my score is a bankruptcy in 2011 and credit card balances too high. I have a goal of buying myself a house next year, if the divorce goes through and the house sells. Being a vet, I can take out a VA loan with no PMI.
Weight: I weighed in this morning at 268. I was at 200 in February 2017, worked out at the gym 5-6 days a week and looked great. During the failed reconciliation, I gained and gained. He didn't want me at the gym (jealous) and would always pack my lunches and make breakfast and dinner, never anything healthy. I truly believed he wanted me heavy so that no other men would look at me, then he would tell me how I let myself go. He would criticize me if I wore makeup to work, had to wear sweatshirts which was not my normal. He drove me back and forth to work, always escorted. This all sent me into a spiraling depression that I am successfully pulling myself out of, slowly. Let's get back to the weight. I didn't do bad today. I had my Shakeology, had frozen Healthy Choice for dinner (16-day streak and running low on fresh food), romaine lettuce salad with Italian, and snuck in some jerky and a peanut butter cup. I didn't get any exercise in today, but I will tomorrow. I actually have 2 days off!!! This time will allow me to prep my food for the next 3 day work shift and exercise. I'm going to get my confidence back before that wedding in 80 days!
I think this is enough for post #2, I don't want to overwhelm anyone, lol.
Have a great day!
Finances: I have attempted a budget for the next 3 pay checks. I need to get bills paid, which will happen, but I am also going on vacation with the youngest and possibly my 18-year-old and his GF for the first time on my own. Just a camping trip with kayaking, but something I haven't done in years due to finances. Even when I was married, I rarely took days off. I was an independent contractor and we needed my checks. I am really looking forward to this. I need to put some money away to help get my son a vehicle and also start an emergency fund for myself. I have read up on Dave Ramsey's steps and I may start the program to get my ducks in a row. I don't know the best way on how to post the budget, I will have to figure that out.
As far as debt goes, this is what I have:
IRS: $2500
Credit Card #1: $1200
Credit Card #2: $1350
Credit Card #3: $500
Credit Card #4: $400
Furniture loan: $1468 ($740 early buyout)
I just finished paying off my medical bills!
My credit score sucks. It is 592 on Experian, 620 on Equifax and 564 Transunion. I expect it to improve with the last medical bill paid in full and a correction to my report as well. The biggest impact to my score is a bankruptcy in 2011 and credit card balances too high. I have a goal of buying myself a house next year, if the divorce goes through and the house sells. Being a vet, I can take out a VA loan with no PMI.
Weight: I weighed in this morning at 268. I was at 200 in February 2017, worked out at the gym 5-6 days a week and looked great. During the failed reconciliation, I gained and gained. He didn't want me at the gym (jealous) and would always pack my lunches and make breakfast and dinner, never anything healthy. I truly believed he wanted me heavy so that no other men would look at me, then he would tell me how I let myself go. He would criticize me if I wore makeup to work, had to wear sweatshirts which was not my normal. He drove me back and forth to work, always escorted. This all sent me into a spiraling depression that I am successfully pulling myself out of, slowly. Let's get back to the weight. I didn't do bad today. I had my Shakeology, had frozen Healthy Choice for dinner (16-day streak and running low on fresh food), romaine lettuce salad with Italian, and snuck in some jerky and a peanut butter cup. I didn't get any exercise in today, but I will tomorrow. I actually have 2 days off!!! This time will allow me to prep my food for the next 3 day work shift and exercise. I'm going to get my confidence back before that wedding in 80 days!
I think this is enough for post #2, I don't want to overwhelm anyone, lol.
Have a great day!
Tuesday, July 10, 2018
I don't know where to even begin ... I guess a little about myself. I'm a mom to 4 humans and 2 fur babies, veteran, first responder, who is separated from the husband. Why do I feel the need to blog? I want to hold myself accountable for many issues, not just one. I need to learn to control my emotions, my fiances, and my weight for starters. I need to develop self-confidence again. I need to learn to live.
What is my current status? I was married to a narcissist for 21 years. We have yet to file papers, but I have moved out permanently. I was a very happy-go-lucky type of person all of my life, until years of tear downs finally caught up. I want that person back, I know it won't happen overnight, but I know I can get there.
My finances? I make decent money. No child support for my youngest that lives with me (the other 3 are older and out of the house) and he is threatening to go after me for alimony, which would put me under the poverty level. I'm trying to work OT right now to pay off bills that I accumulated from moving out and starting over. I didn't go overboard by any means, just basics and that still isn't cheap. I will develop a budget and goals to post so that you all can keep me in line ;)
My weight? I gained 70 pounds during reconciliation. He didn't want me going to the gym or spending any time without him. I am starting an 80 day exercise regimen tomorrow with some coworkers. I'd like to lose a minimum of 30 pounds during those 80 days. I know it isn't the healthiest way but I know how I can get once I start getting into an exercise routine, it becomes my life and I think I need that right now. My coworker is getting married in 81 days and I want to not worry about what I am going to wear and I want to not feel like a whale.
So that is the beginning. I will probably switch topics all the time, so please don't expect this to just be a blog on finances or health, it is a blog of my grumblings! It will be a rough ride as I put everything out there, so fasten your seatbelt.
Cheers ~ Sassy
What is my current status? I was married to a narcissist for 21 years. We have yet to file papers, but I have moved out permanently. I was a very happy-go-lucky type of person all of my life, until years of tear downs finally caught up. I want that person back, I know it won't happen overnight, but I know I can get there.
My finances? I make decent money. No child support for my youngest that lives with me (the other 3 are older and out of the house) and he is threatening to go after me for alimony, which would put me under the poverty level. I'm trying to work OT right now to pay off bills that I accumulated from moving out and starting over. I didn't go overboard by any means, just basics and that still isn't cheap. I will develop a budget and goals to post so that you all can keep me in line ;)
My weight? I gained 70 pounds during reconciliation. He didn't want me going to the gym or spending any time without him. I am starting an 80 day exercise regimen tomorrow with some coworkers. I'd like to lose a minimum of 30 pounds during those 80 days. I know it isn't the healthiest way but I know how I can get once I start getting into an exercise routine, it becomes my life and I think I need that right now. My coworker is getting married in 81 days and I want to not worry about what I am going to wear and I want to not feel like a whale.
So that is the beginning. I will probably switch topics all the time, so please don't expect this to just be a blog on finances or health, it is a blog of my grumblings! It will be a rough ride as I put everything out there, so fasten your seatbelt.
Cheers ~ Sassy
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